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Thursday, April 18, 2013

True Life: I am a Basket Case of Stress.


I recently have been very stressed.
No, you don't understand. 

This is what I have going on in my life:  

{Graduation} (One week! Wow!) Even though I have been "out of college" for a year now and have my own classroom and I feel like I have been graduated for a long time, it still feels weird to be officially done with college. Despite the fact that the next stage of life freaks me out a little bit, I can't describe how excited I am to stop eating Top Ramen 5 days out of the week... Haha. 

{Finding a Job/Interviews}: This past year I have been an intern teacher--meaning I was a first year teacher, but I had a mentor who helped me from August-December. I had my own classroom and whole shindig, but it is not a permanent job. Sucks, huh? Now here comes the brutal part: I Have To Find a Long Term Teaching Job. I don't know how many of you are aware of the teaching world out there but THERE ARE NO JOBS. (Oh wait, that's everywhere, huh? Thanks Obama..eeek too soon?) I had an interview and the principal told me that there were 160 applicants for that one position! 160. ONE POSITION. Meaning the fact that I got an interview was huuuuge. Yet, the official job offer has yet to come. And it is getting a little draining and discouraging. I see all of my friends who were student teachers being offered jobs, and I am a little confused why I feel like I'm the only one not getting a job (even though I know I am not the only one!). Filling out applications, emailing principals, dropping off resumes, having interviews is an exponential exhausting (2 points for alliteration) activity and I am starting to feel worn down. I would love the opportunity to have job security in the fall. 

{A really serious relationship} Yea. That's how I'm going to word it. Tanner. He's amazing. I love him so much. But the process of falling in love is stressful and very time consuming. Wonderful, but stressful! I blame him for my lack of sleep! (He's gonna read this and roll his eyes!). There are particular activities that are involving him as well coming up so...yea...that's been stressful. And that's all I'm going to say about that (2 points if you can name that movie). 


{Teaching Those Crazy 9 & 10 Year Olds}. Remember how I am in the process of interviewing for jobs? Yea, well...I ALSO HAVE A CURRENT CLASS TO TEACH FOR 5 MORE WEEKS. This is a very stressful time of the school year. End of year testing starts next week, the finalizing of the year, etc. etc. The kids are starting to get antsy since they know the school year is almost over. It's funny, it's as if they believe they can act completely out of control because the school year is over in 5 weeks. Funny how that works. They have been...quite the challenge this week. Let's just say I went home almost crying today because they were so disrespectful and difficult. This is so not like them. I love my students so much. They are so funny, bright, and entertaining. But this week has definitely been one for the books. The awful, horrid, books that is. I had a little chat with them about respect and "enduring to the end" (Without bringing religion into schools..duh...except my students started singing Popcorn Popping today..soo that whole church & state line is kind of dim here in small town Utah) . Yea, so that's been fun. Ya know? 


{That Thing Called Weight}: I'm gonna say it. And all of you are going to hate me for saying it. But I am not happy with my weight. Yes, I am not fat. But I hate the fact that when I look in the mirror I see only negatives about myself. And yes, I could be healthier. No, I will never be a size 2. No, I will never even be a size 4. Heck, the last time I was a size 2 was 8th grade. But, I know that I can be healthier and feel better about myself--that is what is important. So, I have started this diet. And I hate it. I hate dieting. I hate the way that it messes with my energy and emotions. I hate how I feel when I'm on a diet. But it's stressful continuously watching what you eat, counting the calories, making sure you're excersing every night. It's a full time job. I've tried a lot of different things. So if anyone has any ideas of a diet that allows me to not starve myself, have the energy to still work out, and make me feel good? Please..I'm all ears. 


{That Other Thing Called Emotions}: I am very emotional person. If you did not know this, WELCOME. It has been something that I have dealt with for my whole life. And keeping up with my emotional health has always been a battle. But when I am stressed with huge life changes, It becomes way worse. And then I don't know if it's just stress that's making me feel that way, or my depression, or Satan, or blah blah blah. And I have to stop and take a moment and breathe. 

{Social Life}: Right now, my social life is the last thing on my list. It's heartbreaking, really. I never see my friends. I don't really have time to do anything super exciting or adventurous (which is hard because my natural instinct is to be very spontaneous!). I hate that. So I have told myself that once school is out, I am going to do something new at least once a week this summer. Whether it be a new hike, scrapbook, learn how to change a tire (yes, I have learned that 90 times...I still can't remember), etc. I am going to get that spontaneity and adventuresome Sierra back! It's difficult to learn to balance my life in times like this. I need relationships in my life--they are something very important to me. But when I finally have alone time, I just want to read, or sleep, or check my emails and get caught up on life (or, ya know, Grey's Anatomy...). Socializing sometimes just makes me tired. Am I weird for saying that? 

Then you add in blogging, church stuff, every day errands, etc. And pretty much I don't have time to breathe. 

I seriously don't know how so many of you find the time to be avid bloggers with giveaways, parties, twitter, meetings, sponsors, etc. Thinking about all of those things just makes me want to vomit. One day I'll have the time. One day. 

I sort of feel like the walls are caving in on me. It's as if I have this "list" of things that I need to get done but I cannot seem to find the energy, positive attitude, or time to do it all. I don't know if it's just the fact that I am overwhelemed, or exhausted, or the fact that this week has seriously been one of the craziest weeks when it comes negative incidents happening in this country! With the Boston Bombings, the lost girl in Provo, the factory being blown up in Texas, Iran occurrences, etc. I seriously think that this week has just been a really crappy week..for everyone....


So, I have created a list of 5 things for me and for those of you out there who feel like they are stressed out of their minds (or just suck at dealing with stress, like me! Anxiety anyone?) 

1.  BREATHE 
Take a moment every day to breathe. A moment could be anything for you: 2 minutes, 15 minutes, 1 hour. Do not go longer than than 3 hours though! That's just getting distracted and lazy. Do not distract yourself with any technology. Get off the computer. Get off your phone. Turn off your tv.
Go for a walk. Take a nap. Write in your journal. Goodness--just lay there for a minute!!! Just stopping for a minute helps you take in what you feel more awakened and focused on the things that are most important. It is vital that you make room to rest.

2. DO SOMETHING SILLY
Don’t forget to have fun! Laugh. A lot. Do something spontaneous. Not every day, but make it a part of your life. Sometimes I tend to get so rigid in my routine that I forget that spontaneity and adventure is a good thing! 


3. PRAY/MEDITATE
I don't care if you are religious or not. Pray. A lot. Pray to yourself. Pray to Buddha. Pray to the earth. Pray to God. Just hearing yourself say the words out loud is a stress reliever. Allowing your inner self to believe in something higher than just you will make your thoughts more positive and give you hope in what is coming up next. 

4. TAKE THE EVENING OFF
You can’t be equally productive every single waking moment, so you might as well schedule some off time off soon. Be nice to yourself and don’t expect to accomplish everything in one day. Allow yourself to sit down and watch a movie. Allow yourself to a take a long shower. Allow yourself to go to bed early on a Friday night. Allow yourself for that long run you've been wanting to take.  Don't be afraid to say no to things. It's okay to not be busy or doing something all of the time. Choose the things that are most important and go with it. Do what is most important to you first. 

5. POSTPONE ALL MAJOR DECISIONS 
This is not the time to move houses, quit your day job or break up with your significant other (however tempting any of those changes are). Save the big stuff for when you’re calmer and can think clearer. YEP. THIS IS ONE I REALLY NEED. I tend to make rash decisions when I am tired or stressed. Allow yourself to think, process, and make the decisions when your head is clearer and not so overwhelmed


This list could go on and on, but this is something I came up with fairly quickly.  
Now, I am going to take a bubble bath. 

What do you do that helps with you stress? 
Any thoughts on my word vomit of what's happening in my life?

It's almost the weekend! Yay!
xoxo. 

9 comments:

  1. I've tried this free program and loved it. You definitely won't be starving with this eating plan. http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/jamie-eason-livefit-trainer.html

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  2. sierra - i started weight watchers and LOVE it.
    its great and super helpful!

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  3. Being in a serious relationship is definitely a full-time committment. A wonderful and beautiful committment. But it definitely takes a lot. I am going into Elementary education too! Good luck with interviews! :)

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  4. I think the worst thing you can do to lose weight is put yourself on a diet. You're going to cheat and it's going to be difficult because you used the magical D word. Everything in moderation is the best way. Don't starve yourself but don't overeat. Diets don't work because they're temporary. I mean unless you want to diet forever.

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  5. just stumbled across your site via the link up and am so happy i did! i totally needed this wake up call right now! for starters, congrats on graduation, that's HUGE! i just did in may! almost a year ago i cant believe it, good luck with the teaching position (love alliteration btw) i will keep my fingers crossed for you!! always make time for the ones you love its the little things that make a life and in the end its going to be moments not things that matter so as stressful as a serious relationship can be, try to enjoy the process, the journey together! and i get two points because the movie is forest gump (im a professional movie quoter, i consider movie quotes my second language!) my advice for dieting is dont. dont put that lable on your food intake. dont count calories, its not necessary. its common sense whats healthy and what isnt and portion control is everything. if you eat 4-5 smaller nutritious meals a day its ok to indulge as well (but in proportion!) and make sure youre drinking water. i always tell myself "yes, a double double fries and shake is delicious, but so is a veggie burger and some sweet potato fries, so is a fruit protein shake, so is a homemade salad, etc." food thats good for you tastes good too! anyway, stress kills and were too young to let it takeover, so your 5 things are wonderful! i too have such difficulty finding balance because i let every aspect of my life fully consume me rather than prioritizing. i feel like success in one area requires neglecting the other areas but it doesnt have to be that way! swimming laps and yoga is my go-to gym routine lately and i have to tell you the calming nature of being under water and the stretching meditation both work wonders on stress! now that ive written a comment as long as your post i will leave you with this: "dont say you dont have enough time you have the same number of hours per day that were given to hellen keller, mother theresa, albert einstein, thomas jefferson, and i always like to include beyonce that woman is everywhere!" you can do it! happy friday pretty! cant wait to read more xo

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  6. these five points all sound like great ideas to help minimise stress. I'm such a stress head at times and really let things get to me, I could definitely do with taking note of some of these things! New follower from the blog hop here, looking forward to reading more :) xx
    www.beautiful-solutions.co.uk

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  7. I feel ya girl! This year has been ridiculous.

    But thanks for the reminders on how important it is to do things to help relieve the stress. Another thing that is so hard when you're busy but really important and makes everything easier if you make time for it is eating well, sleeping well, and exercising. I don't get around to that a lot of the time but when I do things are so much better!

    (Sorry for the lack of commas. I'm on my phone and it's had to leav a comment. Found you through bloggers anon and so glad I did!)

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  8. I'm in the same boat as you as far as the weight thing goes! I love the app: my fitness pal. If I want something, I eat it, but I have to track it. I try to choose foods that are healthier so I can eat more and exercise so I can have treats. Heaven knows I looove treats and food. So this has been working for me! :)

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